Originally posted: June 1, 2019 I was recently contacted by a writer named Sofia Barrett-Ibarria, who was working on a piece exploring the limits of so-called “porn for women” for VICE. Barrett-Ibarria wrote: I’m a writer with VICE working on a piece exploring the limits of so-called “porn for women.” In
Mental Health and Self-Care In Adult Entertainment (Commentary for XBIZ)
I recently corresponded with writer JC Adams, who was doing a special in-depth report for XBIZ on mental health and self care in the adult entertainment industry. The article addressed issues facing models and performers specifically. Adams also had other members of the community with relevant specializations weigh in. Here’s
How *Not* to Start an IAmA
So… last month I did an Ask Me Anything (AMA) forum on Reddit with the co-founder of Motorbunny, Brooks Butler. An AMA/IAmA is a live chat where someone hops on Reddit at a pre-set time and responds to questions as they come from any and all Reddit peeps that care
Alleviating Frustration When ‘Using a Partner’ Isn’t An Option
Last month, I received a query via iamandco.com asking for “experts to speak on female sexual frustration and the best ways to deal with it, especially when using a partner isn’t an option.” Here’s what I had to say: Women’s sexual frustration and how to deal with it *when using a partner
The ‘Peculiarities’ (?) of Open Marriages
I recently received a query from a writer who was “putting together a thorough guide that explains the ins-and-outs of an open marriage” for Ozy.com. The writer wanted to know “how it works, what rules are set in place, and other peculiarities that people in these situations need to know”
Porn, Sex and Seniors (Commentary for Jezebel)
I recently had some interesting correspondence with writer Tracy Clark-Flory. Back in March, Clark-Flory posed the following query: “I’m looking into the possibility of a story on women over the age of 60 in porn. I noticed that Erika Lust recently did a film featuring senior sex, Bree Mills just
XBIZ Woman of the Month, April 2019
What a fantastic honor! I was featured as XBIZ’s “Woman if the Month” profile for April, 2019. You can read my original, unedited interview below, or you can read the polished up version that was published via XBIZ in their magazine on page 60 right here. Enjoy! XBIZ: Tell us
‘The Manwhore Podcast’ Guestin’
I recently was a guest on Episode 258 of Billy Procida‘s “The Manwhore Podcast” — wherein the comedian/host talks to past hook-ups and special guests about sex, dating and sexuality. My guesting was something Billy and I had been trying to coordinate for a long time. It was super fun
Keeping Connected in Long-haul Long Distance Relationships
I recently corresponded with a writer from I AM & CO who was inquiring about tactics to maintain long distance relationships that are destined for the long haul. Specifically: What’s the best way to maintain a healthy long distance relationship when there isn’t an end in sight? How can you
Choosing a Sex Toy for your Lover?
Another interesting/”interesting” query that was oddly vague and seemed to disappear… But it did exist at one point, so you get to see it! I received a query from a writer who was “looking for doctors who specialize in sexuality to give tips on how to choose a sex toy.”